Baby Challenges

They say it all the time…. having a baby is one of the most challenges times in your life. I would disagree and say it has largely been fabulous but there are times which are testing. Over the last few months I have discovered a few things which have really helped.

1. A vapouriser. There is so little you can do for a snuffly baby but a good vapouriser ( steam one if possible) plus saline solution and nose sucker will work treats.

2. Sophie the Giraffe- ridiculously expesive. All babies love it. It is one of those things which you will buy cheaper toys and then end up getting it anyway. As an aside this would be a great gift for friends having babies.

3. Medication- Panadol, calpol, teething gel, infacol, infants friend. I would advise going to a chemist and stocking up before you need them. Sods law it will be the middle of the night and your baby will be crying when you first realise they need pain relief. That is not the time to go chasing all over the city for it. Whilst I avoid these unless necessary I am not leaving the little one in pain.

4. The wonder weeks app- You can get this for your iphone and it basically gives you a timeline of the wonder weeks. These are weeks when babies tend to get fussy and be harder work because they are going through massive developmental leaps. Without fail Milly has hit these about half a week early ( interesting as her early scans showed her as half a week older) , she gets clingy, wakes more, is slightly hard work and often hungrier and then all of a sudden she wakes up fine and can sit on her own ( or some other new trick).

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5. How do you know? I got so frustrated when people said you will just know… about so many things. Turns out I did. I knew she had reflux 2 weeks before it was diagnosed. I also knew she was ready for solids when after weeks of watching us eat she opened her mouth as I got a spoon of my porridge!

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5. Breastfeeding. I have no judgement against those who don’t. At four months I am  in the minority breastfeeding. In some ways it is so hard. I have done every night feed and day feed for over 4 months, I have only left her for 90 minutes in the last few weeks. You don’t get a break. I cant eat dairy as it affects her, you still cant have more than one drink…… it goes on. Then something happens, like the plague (cold!) which hit our house. It was a nasty one her dad got it first, then I did, then she did. Her cold, however, was minimal my body had already made the antibodies which were being passed directly to her. When your little one cant breathe properly you wont mind any of the minor challenges associated with breastfeeding.

6. Frozen boob milk- its like a little ice lolly for those sore gums, or on a hot day. It means their tiny tummies doesn’t get filled with anything but milk and they love it!

7. There is very little not fixed but either; bobbing, cuddling, boobs, kisses or singing

Any top tips for tricky times?

A visit from a dear old friend

Three weeks ago one of my best friends in the world came to visit. She has been here numerous times but not since we bought our house or our new addition to the family. I often find when really close friends come to visit they don’t want to see the tourists attractions, or in her case she already had, but she wanted to see ‘Our Perth’, ‘Our little life’. In someways, especially when you have upped sticks and moved to the other hemisphere, it is nerve wracking to show people you dearly care about the little world you have created for yourself… but we did… and it was fab. This visit marked our 20th anniversary of friendship!

We had trips out on quite a few days to some of my favourite places, the hills to see Les Murdie Falls and then into Kalamunda, the beach at Trigg and Scarborough.

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We also ate a fair few fabulous lunches. Nothing fancy but good food done well. We ate at the wild fig in scarborough, the lucky shag on the river front, sushi train at Tao in Vic park and one afternoon had espresso and chocolates in the David Jones food hall. If you have never done this. DO IT. It was such a decadant little treat. We also made a lot of food at home including a steak and veggie pie.. complete with palm tree and flamingo pastry decorations, obviously!

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Luckily the weather was awesome a lot of the time so we spent ages walking, up the coast, in the hills and round the river.

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In general it was just a lovely catch up. It also made me realise in just 4 short months how much having a baby had changed me to the core. Furthermore I realised what an absolute pleasure our little world and life is. Even though it is very simple we have made it so and it suits us.

After buying anniversary rings for each other from Pigeonhole it was time for her to leave. I was left with an unclean house, as I just left it to enjoy her company and did the bare basics and a teething baby!

How long have you known your oldest friend? What is your little world like?

Setting an example

Lately I have been thinking about this so much. With a little one you can’t help but notice that they watch every SINGLE thing you do. The other day she opened her mouth as I got a spoon of my porridge. She talks back to me, she just watches me. As the mother of a young girl I feel very responsible for how she acts and feels in later life.

As is well documented on here I have been trying to give up drinking diet coke for ages. The other day my little angel watched me drinking a bottle and I felt awful. I Don’t want her to drink it because I do. If in later life it is something she chooses to indulge in because she likes it, fair enough, but I really don’t want her to default to my bad habits.

At four months old she is no longer a newborn, she is an infant who is learning every day. As such I have pondered long and hard and am setting myself some guidelines.

No TV before 4pm- I have caught her watching the TV, I know it can become a babysitter and I want to be strict on myself not to fall in that trap. Luckily we have foxtel so I record shows I like and can look forward to them in the evenings.

Makeup and Hair- I do pop her in a seat in front of the mirror whilst I do my makeup. However, I always ensure it is a 5 minute job. I don’t always style my hair and I ensure to have a few makeup free days each week. I really don’t want her to grow up thinking you always have to be made up to be beautiful.

Exercise- I really want her to love exercise for the fun it is. I feel I only learned this in later life so I do try and do a class most days ( not the weekend) and I also do a lot of walking out and about with the pram. I really wish for her to love being outdoors. If we are having an off day, or it doesn’t fit for that day etc then I cancel no biggie. I just want her to grow up with it being something we do and love.

Food- This is also something I want her to love. I plan to take her to the farmers markets so she can see real food. Currently she sits up as I prepare food each day and she sits in the highchair whilst we eat. We show her the foods and ensure it is varied. Once she is on solids ( which I feel is creeping ever closer) I will sit her up to watch it being home made so she understands about good, basic, home cooked food. I really look forward to the day when she wants to join in and help.

Money- This is further down the track. Naturally I want her to be sensible with money, but not too sensible. We all need to save for rainy days and security but I also want us to show her that hard work means you can have nice treats. Days out and adventures hopefully feature more than actual items.

Belongings- I would love for her to have nice things which she enjoys but it is also important she learns to share and appreciate them. Currently when other children come over I always offer for them to play with her toys so hopefully its just something that happens and she doesn’t get stressed by it. My mum always let me choose a couple of toys to put away in my room when children came over and I shared the rest. She also got us to clear out prior to Christmas and give things to charity which is a lovely practise and helped us understand just how fortunate we are. To this day I love a good clear out and if I know I have no use for something I will pass it on.

Travel- I so hope she loves this. I cant wait to show this little one the world. Saving for travel is a priority for me.

Reading- whilst I don’t want her to see me in front of the TV I love to read with her and am happy for her to play whilst I read a book in front of her. I hope she learns to escape in a book.

Finally I hope I strike the right balance between showing her life as I would love her to enjoy and giving her the space to grow into the beautiful little soul she is.

 

What do you wish to show your little ones?

Spending ban

  Sadly my maternity pay has now come to an end. In the spirit of saving I am going to try and make it fun here by having a no buy rule between now and my uk trip. I will be shopping my stash, generating wish lists for when I am away and also reviewing empties etc so I know what I really use and like.

Watch this space.

Do you do spending bans?

Goal weight

I always love to have a reward for when I get to goal. Now my milk supply is established I am back on weight watchers to loose my baby weight and get to that goal. I have set myself the timeframe of by my 32nd (eeek) birthday which is in February! My progress, which I don’t want to make a song and a dance of, will be logged on the weightloss page!

In this blog I will be compiling a list of clothes I like and looks I want to try when I get to goal. Largely my wardrobe has good basics but they are getting pretty heavy duty wear and washing ( thanks to a spewy baby!) so will need replacing by that point. I am also going to choose some items for when I am no longer breastfeeding!

do you reward yourself and make lust lists?

Mummy face!

Mummy face!

The mummy face is a challenge. It needs to be doable in 5 mins, pretty hardy as you don’t have time for touch ups and make you feel good after less than perfect sleeping!

I like mineral base as sometimes, if we are honest, you don’t quite make it to taking your makeup off before tumbling into bed!

A bronze to warm up the skin, lip stain so you can give lots of kisses with zero transfer to baby and I am enjoying a tube mascara as there is zero smudge! Finally a wash of 24 hour shadow so it doesn’t slide all over the face and you are ready for anything.

Currently I have a lot to use up and am working in doing this before Christmas. I do have a few wish items on my list….

Jane iredale foundation
Naked pallette

In the meantime I will try and join the project pan brigade again!

what are your basics? What do you lust after?

A working mother

I have been meaning to write this for a while. When I was pregnant I was sure I would want to return to work a few days a week after a year. Everyone said I would change my mind. I remained open to changing my mind as everyone was so sure I would.

At 3 months I love being a stay at home mum. I would find it hard to go back now as she needs me lots. I look forward to returning to work next year. I hope I can find a job that suits. I am not willing to work more than 3 days a week, I need to be my daughters main carer, and we are lucky to have the luxury I don’t have to. I do miss work, I loved my job and it interested and excited me. Infact more than ever I want to do a job I love, go to work and come home smiling to tell my daughter I loved it. I want her to see people having jobs they love so she expects and wants that for herself!

The extra money is also handy for financial stability and for my other passion travel . I want to show her the world from a young age so she learns to love it and be excited by it as opposed to scared of it.

are you a working mum? Do you plan to be?

Life updates

The last life update I wrote I was fully disorganized in my head. I honestly didn’t know where I was at for home or work. Now things have settled, as per usual, everything has it’s own way of falling into place.

We got a new car a Volkswagen tiguan and it’s great, really perfect for families who do inner city driving as well.

We also did some research and got some opinions and decided to reclad the outside of our house. This is quite an expense but will add value as well as decreasing heating/ cooling costs. By doing this and getting new windows we have spent a fair bit on our abode but it has upgraded it and made it more of a three bedroom house.

I am nervous that we are spending our savings but it seems positive that there will be some kind of job that I want for next year. Ideally I would like to work in my given field 2 or 3 days per week.

The knowledge that I could be working again next year means I am treasuring this year. Making every effort to enjoy each day for what it is. Even if that day is one of those days where milly needs to be cuddled all day and we are parked on the couch. Smiles like this make it soooo worthwhile .

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We have also been working out loads: walking in the sun by the river, mum and baby pilates, aqua and barre extend bubs on board are part of our week as well as a vibro plate class which condenses an hours work out into 30 mins so is perfect for mummas. I should get the clearance to run in a week or so aswell! We have been loving these classes as they get us out the house and amongst others!

The diet is gradually being cleaned up, I didn’t stress about an all or nothing approach but am working with crowding out ( ie chucking the good stuff in so there is less room for the bad stuff) as each day goes by I crave the bad stuff less.

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This particular offering was pear, coconut water, cucumber, lime and mint! Oh hello gorgeous!

The sunny weather has meant we have been using the pushchair heaps and I carry a blanket in the bottom so if we are running early we can have a quick lie down in the breeze and kick our legs about ( more her than me).

how is life lately for you?

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