My Wedding is now only 4 months away and for the first time I am starting to get pretty excited. Please don`t misunderstand me I love my other half very much but I am not really a wedding day person. This wedding has caused so much grief to us and that is not an understatement.
After we got engaged I was very overwhelmed by everything. People wanted us to have engagement parties, which seems to be an Australian thing, and I really didn`t want one. As far as I could remember in England we don’t normally have them which is probably why it seemed unusual to me. I also really struggled with the idea as I knew I would have a few wines, and this was a couple of years ago now when we got engaged, and I would probably cry as the people I really wanted to celebrate with were not here ( as they were in the UK).
My family love me to the earth and back but travelling to Australia is a massive journey and just not affordable for some people. A journey for people from Australia to the UK also would not have been affordable as well. So we did not have an engagement party. My family bought me a few lovely gifts and My grandmother in law brought us some lovely sporks or splades ( cross knife fork spoons) which are her signature gift and I treasure them. I am not interested in having a party to get gifts but love little gifts which are meaningful. Surprisingly so many people have said.. why aren`t you having a party? If you don’t have a party you wont get gifts! My response is twofold. I did not get engaged to get gifts and I don`t want people buying us gifts because they have to but because they want to regardless of a party. Rant over.
Initially our wedding was planned for Sri Lanka which is half way between Uk and Australia. My partner and I have large families and we didn`t want to choose who to invite so we thought anyone who wanted to could come. It got massive, I started having quite nasty nightmares about walking down the isle and people looking at me etc. My family stopped being nice to each other, I got stressed, so we cancelled.
Our second wedding plan was a trip to Vegas with the two mums and a quickie wedding in the Harley Davidson Chopper Chapel. This sadly fell through just before christmas due to visa issues and I was more than a little upset. Mainly for my other half. Anyway we picked ourselves up and brushed ourselves down and our now planning a rather lovely wedding.
The wedding we have booked seems so fitting to us. It is in Gretna Green as Scotland is the only part of the UK where you do not have to give notice to marry in person ( did you know that?). I actually love the idea that we, like so many generations before us, are struggling to find somewhere to legally marry us so are running over the border to Gretna ( Romance). It is held in a small place just outside where you marry onsite, have a 3 course meal and then because it is Gretna and there are other weddings they clear a big dance floor and all weddings share a disco… random but possibly amazing. I sooo want a picture of me and the other brides having a boogie. Legendary. I actually love this idea as the thought of lots of people looking at me stresses me so this seems like a nice way to share. More brides equals more happiness in my book.
I will show all the details and a proper review after the wedding but the actually wedding itself will be for around 35 people ( a number I can deal with) and is quite budget. I like a budget wedding mainly because it is just one day but also because they tend to be simpler. My only worry is that the food may not be excellent. we are also paying for flights, visa applications, rings and treating ourselves to a few nights away to honey moon around the uk. I so badly want a few days in a cornish fishing village to show my other half some lovely parts of England.
Now although I say I am not a massive wedding girl I did have some specifics. I really struggled to think of marrying without my family there and hated it when that was planned so I am delighted to have them there. Personally I really didn’t want a package wedding which was not personalised as it would not have made the day special. Luckily I have an amazing family making some lovely special items to make the day special and I am organising some bits and bobs!
As I may have mentioned on this blog I am not so good with massive groups, particularly when I haven’t seen people for an age… so We are having a series of parties ( which I will blog about). The first weekend after we celebrate with my mum and step dad and family and friends, the next weekend we celebrate with my dad and family and then the next weekend in Australia we celebrate with folk here. The parties will all be casual affairs which is much more us.We are getting a few photos and a film, just of the ceremony, even though I really resisted both it means some people who couldn’t make it can watch it.
So the four month countdown begins and I am pretty excited. Once this visa comes through there will be no holding me back.
Watch this space for more details etc.
Wedding planning at the moment? Had a wedding? any special things you did? I would love to hear about it.
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